Traveling With My Sisters (An Introvert in Unknown Territories)

“I Read; I Travel; I Become” – Derick Walcott

Most of my traveling starts and ends between the covers and endpaper of my favorite books. However, there are times when it is necessary to move this corporeal body to a different location. And what does this mean? Airports. 

I have been fortunate enough to have traveled to three different continents, eleven countries, and 29 states. These trips have been beneficial as I think about writing and what I now know of the world. So, although I enjoy the comfort of my own how, I see the value of travel and enjoy where I am when I get there.

Leaving New York

My grandparents drove us to the airport early in the morning and dropped us off. We did the normal waiting in lines, getting our tickets and giving our luggage, waiting in lines, going through security, finding our gate, waiting in lines, and then, finally, boarding the giant plain. Once we were on the plane we figured we would be off within the hour. However, this was not to be the case. There was ice on the plane and a false negative in one of the door locks so we sat on the tarmac for two and a half hours before we finally took off for our 14-hour flight. 

I was getting worried at this point because our layover in South Africa was only three hours. We figured we would make up time in the air but it proved not to be enough. We landed in South Africa and as we were waiting to get off the plane we knew that the chances of our getting on the next flight were slimmer and slimmer. Once we had gotten off of the plane we had to get on a bus when we asked the lady in charge and showed her our ticket she told us we should have been on the bus that had just left. So, we got on the next one. When we reached the airport a man with a walky-talky had us run through the whole airport to try to get on the flight. We had almost run through the whole airport when we were told that the flight had left. 

A Night in the South Africa Airport

As you can guess, there was no other flight to Livingstone that day. So, we were stuck in the airport for 24 hours. We got a room in the airport hotel and they gave us meal vouchers. This was helpful because we could get showers and work on switching to African time. We ate at the same restaurant for the next three meals and had to go through security every time we wished to eat. But, the beds were comfortable and the food wasn’t bad. 

Arrival: My Parents Waving Through the Open Gate

The next day we got on our plane. It was a short flight that had been the separation between us and Zambia. We were at the very back of the plane since we had been added late and there were 24 empty seats behind us. This was not a popular flight. 

We landed in Livingstone and went to get our visa. We were at the end of the line. By the time we got to the conveyor belt all of our bags were off the belt and sitting on the floor. We picked up our bags and put them on a trolley. Then we went to the gate and saw our parents waiting there for us. They had seen our plane land and cross the tarmac. It was lovely to see them but I was completely exhausted from all of the travel and the airports. 

Airports and People

I love watching people and observing them but I do not like crowds. It is interesting though, I enjoy airports when I have other people as a buffer. My sisters were there with me and I could get them to do most of the talking because they are extroverts. Until they decided to have me talk to the guy at the desk and ask him a question we had already asked and I knew the answer to. This is where there are conflicts and stress for an introvert such as myself. 

I do, however, enjoy imagining who people are, where they are from, and why they might be in the South African airport. Overall the travel on the way to Zambia was much less “introvert exhausting” than I had worried it would be prior to my travels. This step outside of my comfort zone was well worth it and showed me that all I really need is a travel companion. 

Where Else to Get Material for Stories and Observe People than in the Real World?

I have always found humans intriguing, that is part of why psychology and personality types are so interesting to me. I love to observe how family units interact, how couples argue, and how strangers become friends. I cannot do this within my own head and that is where the real world comes into play. 

As a writer, it is wonderful to take a moment outside of my head and see new sights, smell new smells, taste new food, and meet new people, no matter how exhausting it may be. I use everything I see as material for my stories and people in my life get roles in the theatre of my mind that spills onto the page. 

Where would you like to travel in the world? What world would you go to if you could jump into a novel? What is your favorite place in the world?

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-Evi. L. Holmes

The First Leg (an Introvert in Unknown Territories)

I have talked about friends before and will continue to talk about it because it is a new field for me. I am not one who keeps many friends. This is not a harsh judgment of the people whom I do not regard as friends but instead a positive review of the few that I choose. This rings true for one of my best friends.

The first four days of my expedition into the unknown of my comfortlessness I drove to see her. Let it be known, I hate driving. Travel, in general, is rough when I must do it on my own (but I think I will save this for a different post). I had done no planning beforehand and I had never been to her apartment. I didn’t know what I was getting into. 

It didn’t turn out bad it actually went well. On top of that, I wasn’t worried about it beforehand like I usually would. I had let it go and it led me not to worry.

My friend worked a lot while I was there, so I spent a lot of time on my own reading, relaxing, and recharging my battery for the craziness that I assumed would be ahead. This time was invaluable because I was coming off of my toughest college semester and going into a time of unknowns. 

What did I learn or relearn at my friends’ house?

I need my time to be alone but some people can give me energy. She is one of the very few people that gives me just enough energy to keep up the conversation with her. It is a net-zero but that is very good for me because net positives don’t exist where people are concerned. 

I found that I don’t need to plan absolutely everything and that even when I don’t plan, I do. I had contingencies plans that were unknown to me but I had still made. This tells me that I am who I am regardless of how “chilled out” I try to be. I am a planner and within that, I am a subconscious planner. My mind plans things out for me and just computes and answer that I don’t have to work on. 

In conclusion, I am always planning and perhaps it would be better on my stress levels to let my subconscious take more of the work. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous to let things go and that I didn’t have a few mental breakdowns along the way. That is why I think that I need to let go of some of the planning but maintain the broad control of my life. This could be helpful for you if you are an introverted planner like me.

Is there anyone who gives you a “net-zero” on your energy? How much do you plan your life?

Please feel free to email me any questions, stories, themes, or ideas I am grateful for all your contributions.

My email is evilholmess@gmail.com

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-Evi. L. Holmes

Don’t Let Your Dreams be Dreams- Make Yourself a Success Story

“I’ve met some folks who say that I’m a dreamer, and I’ve no doubt there’s truth in what they say”

I have always been a dreamer, for as long as I can remember. I have always gotten lost in the worlds that my favorite authors created just for me. I could see myself in the characters that they depicted. Hermione with her tangled mane of hair, her strong attitude, and her brilliant brain. I often say that I am the person Hermione would have become if she went through middle school without Ron and Harry but the truth is I had them and I had her as well. I always had a world, of my choosing, to slip away to.

Then as I got older, I could create my own. I had always thought up stories but I had never really written them down. Every night, before I fall asleep, I envision the world as I wish it to be or I create a story. I am a thinker and a dreamer, a realist and an idealist. 

There have been many people who have tried to shut me down and say that my dreams would only ever be dreams. My brother beats up on my dreams pretty much any time I bring them up. My mother and father sometimes speak against my dreams but that has become less frequent. They either see that I am serious about my passions or I have satisfied enough of their need for security that they do not care what I do in my free time. I think that they see my passion though. They have always told me to keep my passions as hobbies and do them while I have a “real job” but I do not understand the point of doing something that you hate every day so that you can keep living to do the thing that you hate every day

The truth is that you can make your life what you want it to be. You can be happy in your job and furthermore you should be. It is okay to do a job that you hate for a little while until you get your footing but eventually, you have to take a leap of faith. 

Those who succeed in life have Four things in common. 

One: Risk Takers

It is very difficult to get anywhere without incurring some type of risk. Living is a risky business but what is the worst that could happen? Will it be worse if you do or worse if you don’t. Regret is a tough thing to swallow. It often gets stuck in your throat. You think that it is gone and you can’t feel it for a while and then one day you swallow and realize that it never really went anywhere. You will always wonder what could have happened if you had put yourself out there and tried for what you wanted. The worst thing that happens is, you don’t get what you wanted but the best that could happen is you get all you dreamed of. If you don’t put yourself out their then the best thing that could happen is, you don’t get what you want but at least you are safe. Right? Those who have succeeded had to make the first move. They put themselves out there so that they could tackle their dreams.

Two: Fail Quickly Fail Often

There is nothing wrong with failure just like there is nothing wrong with obstacles. Obstacles build character and they form you into the person that you need to be. They mold you and in the end, make you better. Failure is similar in that it shows what not to do. They are all learning experiences. You want to fail often towards the beginning of your career or whatever it is that you are doing. This helps you to figure out what to do and what not to do and the faster you get a handle on this, the better. You want to fail early because this will help you not to fail later when it could be more catastrophic. 

Three: Get up and Go

When they fail they pick themselves up and keep on going. Sometimes even harder than they did before. Those failures and obstacles develop perseverance and that perseverance helps them get through the next obstacle. They have to be driven and create something out of nothing, whether that is structure, an invention, or a system that will help organize something greater than themselves. People who are driven have passion and they really want what they are chasing. If you don’t want it you might as well forget it. I know what you are thinking, Well, of course, I want it you are so silly Evi, why would I be here if I didn’t. But you have to let it be your sense of purpose. The thing that gives you life and that truly makes you happy.

Four: Practice, Practice, And guess what? Practice

If you really want it then you will practice. Let it consume you. It is said that it takes 10,000 hours to master something. So, I suggest you get started. Whatever it is, you must practice. Start small if you have to. Carve out a set amount of time each day and make it consistent. Form a habit out of it. It could be 15 minutes or 2 hours. Maybe you start with fifteen minutes and add an extra minute each day until you get to 2 hours. Do what works for you but do not wait until tomorrow. If you do, tomorrow will never come. Successful people think about what they want to do all the time. They carve out time at meals or on breaks from their jobs, in between classes or while they are sitting on the toilet. Saying that you do not have time is usually just an excuse. Make time and practice.

There are statistics and odds of how successful you could become but the outliers are the ones who taste real success. They are successful in the area of their choosing. My favorite author, Brandon Sanderson said, in a lecture that writing is not as big of a long shot as people make it out to be. He, of course, is absolutely brilliant and made it sooner than most and in a very big way but those in his writing group also make a living as writers. If you are passionate about something, if you have a dream don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t and if they do, prove them wrong. That is my intention as I write. Every word is a defiance of what people have told me that I could not do. There are so many people who say that you should follow your dreams but all it takes is one person’s negative comments to make you lose hope. Do not let them have that power and rob the world of your passion.

North Star

Dream on little start 

Don’t let your light go out

The moon may eclipse you

Hide you from view

But we know you shine still

Dream on little start

Even though you’re alone

In the deep dark of space

So far from the home

Dream on little star

We see you shimmer

You may feel small

And think you grow dimmer

Dream on little star

You think you are small

But in reality, you are

The Brightest of all

What are your dreams and your passions? Tell me a story of when someone told you that you couldn’t? Did you do it anyway? Have you reached your dream?

Please feel free to email me any questions, stories, themes, or ideas I am grateful for all your contributions.

My email is evilholmess@gmail.com

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-Evi. L. Holmes