“I’ve met some folks who say that I’m a dreamer, and I’ve no doubt there’s truth in what they say”
I have always been a dreamer, for as long as I can remember. I have always gotten lost in the worlds that my favorite authors created just for me. I could see myself in the characters that they depicted. Hermione with her tangled mane of hair, her strong attitude, and her brilliant brain. I often say that I am the person Hermione would have become if she went through middle school without Ron and Harry but the truth is I had them and I had her as well. I always had a world, of my choosing, to slip away to.
Then as I got older, I could create my own. I had always thought up stories but I had never really written them down. Every night, before I fall asleep, I envision the world as I wish it to be or I create a story. I am a thinker and a dreamer, a realist and an idealist.
There have been many people who have tried to shut me down and say that my dreams would only ever be dreams. My brother beats up on my dreams pretty much any time I bring them up. My mother and father sometimes speak against my dreams but that has become less frequent. They either see that I am serious about my passions or I have satisfied enough of their need for security that they do not care what I do in my free time. I think that they see my passion though. They have always told me to keep my passions as hobbies and do them while I have a “real job” but I do not understand the point of doing something that you hate every day so that you can keep living to do the thing that you hate every day
The truth is that you can make your life what you want it to be. You can be happy in your job and furthermore you should be. It is okay to do a job that you hate for a little while until you get your footing but eventually, you have to take a leap of faith.
Those who succeed in life have Four things in common.
One: Risk Takers
It is very difficult to get anywhere without incurring some type of risk. Living is a risky business but what is the worst that could happen? Will it be worse if you do or worse if you don’t. Regret is a tough thing to swallow. It often gets stuck in your throat. You think that it is gone and you can’t feel it for a while and then one day you swallow and realize that it never really went anywhere. You will always wonder what could have happened if you had put yourself out there and tried for what you wanted. The worst thing that happens is, you don’t get what you wanted but the best that could happen is you get all you dreamed of. If you don’t put yourself out their then the best thing that could happen is, you don’t get what you want but at least you are safe. Right? Those who have succeeded had to make the first move. They put themselves out there so that they could tackle their dreams.
Two: Fail Quickly Fail Often
There is nothing wrong with failure just like there is nothing wrong with obstacles. Obstacles build character and they form you into the person that you need to be. They mold you and in the end, make you better. Failure is similar in that it shows what not to do. They are all learning experiences. You want to fail often towards the beginning of your career or whatever it is that you are doing. This helps you to figure out what to do and what not to do and the faster you get a handle on this, the better. You want to fail early because this will help you not to fail later when it could be more catastrophic.
Three: Get up and Go
When they fail they pick themselves up and keep on going. Sometimes even harder than they did before. Those failures and obstacles develop perseverance and that perseverance helps them get through the next obstacle. They have to be driven and create something out of nothing, whether that is structure, an invention, or a system that will help organize something greater than themselves. People who are driven have passion and they really want what they are chasing. If you don’t want it you might as well forget it. I know what you are thinking, Well, of course, I want it you are so silly Evi, why would I be here if I didn’t. But you have to let it be your sense of purpose. The thing that gives you life and that truly makes you happy.
Four: Practice, Practice, And guess what? Practice
If you really want it then you will practice. Let it consume you. It is said that it takes 10,000 hours to master something. So, I suggest you get started. Whatever it is, you must practice. Start small if you have to. Carve out a set amount of time each day and make it consistent. Form a habit out of it. It could be 15 minutes or 2 hours. Maybe you start with fifteen minutes and add an extra minute each day until you get to 2 hours. Do what works for you but do not wait until tomorrow. If you do, tomorrow will never come. Successful people think about what they want to do all the time. They carve out time at meals or on breaks from their jobs, in between classes or while they are sitting on the toilet. Saying that you do not have time is usually just an excuse. Make time and practice.
There are statistics and odds of how successful you could become but the outliers are the ones who taste real success. They are successful in the area of their choosing. My favorite author, Brandon Sanderson said, in a lecture that writing is not as big of a long shot as people make it out to be. He, of course, is absolutely brilliant and made it sooner than most and in a very big way but those in his writing group also make a living as writers. If you are passionate about something, if you have a dream don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t and if they do, prove them wrong. That is my intention as I write. Every word is a defiance of what people have told me that I could not do. There are so many people who say that you should follow your dreams but all it takes is one person’s negative comments to make you lose hope. Do not let them have that power and rob the world of your passion.
Dream on little start
Don’t let your light go out
The moon may eclipse you
Hide you from view
But we know you shine still
Dream on little start
Even though you’re alone
In the deep dark of space
So far from the home
Dream on little star
We see you shimmer
You may feel small
And think you grow dimmer
Dream on little star
You think you are small
But in reality, you are
The Brightest of all
What are your dreams and your passions? Tell me a story of when someone told you that you couldn’t? Did you do it anyway? Have you reached your dream?
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-Evi. L. Holmes